Let's be honest here: Dating isn't so much about finding your perfect match, but it's a means for one of the participants to get a free meal.  In other words, getting used for a free lunch or dinner is the name of the dating game. 

 

It's all about getting as many freebies and affection from the other person as possible before you leave that person for the next sap you can take advantage of.​

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You can never express yourself, your interests, your past, your experiences, or your appearance accurately in an app.

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You are far more than any paragraph you put on your profile, and your looks involve so much more than a cell phone picture of yourself.

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So why would you play the game of a limited app with complete strangers who also list as little information about themselves as possible?

 

The only correct option to playing the game is to never play it to begin with. 

 

In other words: STOP DATING.

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STOP playing the game of "getting to know" someone while spending tons of money for rituals and cultural norms.

 

Dating is the biggest waste of time in the western world next to watching the news and enduring disgusting YouTube ads (get the Brave bowser/app to block ads).

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There is really no worse way to waste your time, money, and energy than to use Dating Apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge.

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If the person you are getting to know from one of these apps encourages wasting tons of money on overpriced food and on luxury, then they're not spousal material and they're NOT worth your time and hard-earned money.

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NEVER pursue someone that desires expensive things during your initial dates.  That is an absolute RED FLAG.

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ONLY date someone who is willing to sacrifice luxuries and get to know you first and foremost.  If there are any motives from this individual just to get free stuff, then that's a red flag and another sign to leave this individual.

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You should never try to date complete strangers you met on the street or on an app.

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I'll never cease saying the truth: Only date people from your connections you have from your social network and from your past.  Meaning, find people that know people you are familiar with in some capacity.  In other words, only approach and engage with referred people from those you personally know or have experience with in some capacity.

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In other words, use your social connections to vouch and screen these individuals that can potentially be a part of your life.

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What this opportunity looks like in the real world:

1. Someone from your high school that you might have stumbled upon on social media.

2. Someone your Church Elder or Bishop finds from a different congregation/church that they recommend you meet.  

3. An old coworker you met at a past job that you've left a few years ago that you connect with on social media.

4. Your parents find and recommend a potential mate for you from their social channels (their friends and work colleagues).

5. A coworker at your current job that you plan on leaving from in the very near future.

6. Someone you meet in a social club (Example: running or cycling club) that you regularly attend and have a passion in.

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By engaging with a potential mate that is linked to you or someone in your social network, you eliminate much of the mystery, risk, and confusion that dating random strangers on the internet brings you.

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Ultimately, you need more to link you to other people than just a random dating app that millions participate in every single day.  You need grounding to the reality that these are people's lives we are talking about, and that no one exists in a bubble.  

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Have others (including your past experiences) do much of the vetting for your potential mate, and bring some context and perspective to any potential spousal candidate.

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As long as you don't try to date in a vacuum like what these Dating apps want you to do, then I think you'll do just fine and find a great partner!  Good luck!

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